In multiple occasions I have taken bad decisions. Decisions that came with a hefty price and in different forms. Decisions that at some point I regretted and wished to take back.
If you have been in situations like that, I totally understand your pain and frustration.
But we also need to look at those decisions and their consequences as a lesson from life, a lesson that teaches us something, something that can be used to improve and to be ready for the next decisions to take.
Instead of grieving forever due to the decisions we took in the past, forgiving ourselves helps us close that chapter and move on. It allows us to look at the future with an unburdened mind and gives us more clarity to base our next steps on the foundation of our resiliency and our character.
It requires great character to forgive the faults of other people, but the ultimate act of self-improvement is shown when we forgive ourselves and get ready for the next fork in the road. Remember that our current situation is the result of the multiple decisions we have made in the past. That means that our future will be determined by the kind of decisions we start taking today.
If you’re looking for a better future, you’re allowed to review your past, but only as a reference, not as a predictor of the journey ahead. Use that knowledge and put it to good use. You will thank yourself later for that.
Some people use the phrase: “I want to leave the world better than I found it”. This is a great statement, but there’s no external betterment without internal improvement. We cannot take care of others when we don’t take care of ourselves. Forgiving ourselves gives us that opportunity and it must be part of our plan to thrive in any circumstances.
I choose to forgive myself. You, my friend, please do the same.
Have a great life!