When we try to be perfect, that just shows how imperfect we are.
We are born with potential, not with abilities. We are a white canvas, a blank book, an empty recipient that starts being filled when we see the first light coming out of the womb.
Potential translates into success when we say “dadda” or “momma”, or when the first smile is drawn in our face.
Walking, running, speaking, singing, reading… nothing comes with us at birth, it’s all acquired with time and practice. And the journey is hard, full of disappointments, full of obstacles, full of hard falls.
However, we keep going, we strive to conquer such obstacles during our childhood. We want to become better, and we put down the effort to do so.
As we grow up, the motivation to improve fades away, mostly because we feel that we have reached the pinnacle and there’s no more room to become smarter, as we take for granted that the years of education and experience give us enough to navigate any storm we face in life.
What really happens is that we avoid acknowledging our fears and our need for help. We feel that accepting failure is embarrassing, incorrect, out of the question.
And what has that accomplished?
Embracing our struggles liberates us. We move on faster when we embrace the fact that we are imperfect and that we are part of an infinite chain of helping and being helped. Accept the fact that there’s here’s always someone ready to help you, and there will always be someone in need of your help.
And when you’re helping, your struggles become your best tool. When you share your struggles, you might be providing a life-changing advice to someone, because they might be about to make the same mistake that you did, and now, by learning from you, they can make a different decision. Your struggles become golden nuggets of wisdom and by sharing them you show your vulnerable side and with that… your transparency. Because nobody believes in perfection. When someone talks only about perfect things, we don’t believe that, and we walk away from such individual.
In the journey of self-improvement, you will face a lot of unsavory situations. It’s fine to try to avoid those, but if you can’t, you need to make a conscientious effort to find the lesson in it. That lesson will become the next golden nugget of wisdom that you can share with others. That’s when you improve… harvesting the life-lessons and sharing them.
My struggles have thought me a lot of things.
I hope that your struggles do the same!